Yeah, you read that right.
My school has a TWO year reunion.
Hey, we’re a really tiny school and we need to build that Alumnae network, that’s why.
Anyway, our Two Year Reunion was almost "too soon" for me. Not enough had happened, and everyone who I had reconnected with from my college days were all still pretty much in the same boat as I was. Everyone was JUST getting started with their lives. Some had immediately left to go back home after graduation to pursue entry level jobs, while others found tiny apartments in big cities while enrolling in graduate programs.
In other words, we were still struggling adults.
Mount Holyoke offered everything a youngling like myself could want – academics, extracurriculars, good friends – and when I had left that campus I also left behind the bubble that was my identity as a college student. Unfortunately, there is no known cure for the deflated feeling one feels after leaving a campus like that. The feeling just persists beyond graduation.
Because it's called adulthood.
But even with all the book suggestions that came my way, I couldn't help but grimaced at the some of the "happy-go-lucky / feel-good" novels that were brought to my attention. I was an adult, and with adulthood comes confusion, overwhelming emotions, loneliness and a slight addiction to Netflix. I needed books that understood me, and felt EXACTLY what I was feeling.
So if you're a recently new adult, know that you are not alone. There are plenty of books out there that combat and even comfort the surprising or outrageously abnormal foreign feelings that (unfortunately) come attached with adulthood. Best of all, after reading these books you are reminded of a very important thing:
The feeling you are currently feeling right now, is NEVER permanent.
#2: The House on Mango Street by Sandra Cisneros
#3: Adulting: How to Become a Grown-up in 468 Easy(ish) Steps by Kelly Williams Brown
#4: Sweetbitter by Stephanie Danler
#5: The Assistants by Camille Perri
#6: Modern Lovers by Emma Straub
#7: Rich and Pretty by Rumaan Alam
Better yet, the people who I had reconnected with at my college reunion – people who I was really good friends with – were telling me about their interesting adventure while going through adulthood. One friend of mine who I had always liked – mainly because she said hello to everyone she passed on campus, and was always sincere – I was really happy to see again. She told me about her new job, moving to a new city and about a boy she was now dating.
And honestly, I felt really good for her. She genuinely made reunion worth it.
Because sometimes it's worth listening to both the success and struggles of navigating the cutthroat waters of adulthood.
After all, there's no instruction manual on how to live out or lives.
We just have to try and live out the best of it.